Have you ever had a relationship, confrontation, or interaction with someone that plagued your body and mind for days?
. Did you feel guilty, angry, rebellious, sad, frustrated, disrespected, anxious, or physically ill?
You have experienced and paid in full, perhaps OVERPAID, what I call, The Energy Tax!
.
What Is Energy Tax?
We know that everyone and everything on this planet has energy. When you interact with someone, or something, you exchange energies.
Well, when it is a toxic exchange, it can cause you to dwell on it for days, months, years. This exchange has many sources such as experiencing manipulation from a narcissist in any form whether it be physical, mental, or emotional. It could be a confrontation with a family member, friend, neighbor, or coworker. It could be a road-rage incident. It could be from you over-extending yourself offering support and advice from a loved-one who doesn't have sincere intentions of acting on it.
.
When you allow these instances to replay in your mind and you don't release the emotions and energy that come with it, it is stored in your body, and you pay The Energy Tax.
Over. And over. And Over..... each time you choose to ruminate, try to "control" someone by changing who you are, assuming the responsibility for the entire situation, assuming responsibility for their emotions....
All of this is payment to the Energy Tax.
Does it sound familiar?
Unfortunately, this is a very common conditioning that we bring into our adult lives from childhood. That "people pleasing" trauma.
The good news is... you CAN fix it!
You can stop "paying" tax on energy that is not yours to hold.
YOU are in control. It's YOUR choice.
If someone is triggered by you sharing your feelings or enforcing a boundary.... that is NOT your responsibility. DO NOT accept their trigger as your burden. RELEASE the energy tax and "cut" the cord before it strangles you.
If a loved one is always asking you for advice on the same topic but refuses to change, you have to enforce a boundary. This one is always tough, because you love them, and you want to help. But the sad reality is you can't help them until they are ready to help themselves, and by continuing to provide guidance and advice on the same topic time after time, you're just enabling this behavior to continue.
How do you cut the cord in this case?
You can say something like "Oh, you're still having the same challenge as the last time we spoke about it. Did you try my suggestions?" If they answer "No", you can say "I would suggest starting there." and end the conversation. Do not entertain it anymore. If they keep bringing it up to get what they want, simply tell them "My advice has not changed from last time, or the time before. You have to choose to try it or not."
If talking to them makes you uncomfortable you can say something like " I am so sorry you're still struggling with this, but I don't think I'm the right person to talk to."
If it doesn't align with your internal harmony, don't pay the tax.
You should only accept and own your contribution (accountability) to the situation such as your words, actions, and emotions. Everything else is not your tax to pay.
.
Ways to Cut The Cord
You can cut the energy ties and cords by:
1. Taking a shower or cleansing bath with some rosemary essential oils in the water or the bottom of the shower. Not too much, just a few drops! connect with your breathing, and as you exhale say "I release the energy cords from (person's name) and the events of today." " I do not accept these thoughts, feelings and emotions into my energetic frequency."
Writing your feelings, thoughts, emotions, the person's name, the event etc. on strips of paper and burning it with a lighter (or in a black candle's flame is my favorite for that extra "oomph" in banishing energies.)
Right after it happens, take your hands over your head, eyes, throat and heart starting from the top of your head and wiping downwards, like you're waving away a stinky smell reciting "I release the energy cords from (person's name) and the events of today." " I do not accept these thoughts, feelings and emotions into my energetic frequency."
Use this guide to help you in challenging situations.
Love, H
Comentários